I took a new job recently.
It is a good job. I am
engineering manager for a composite fiberglass manufacturing company. What that means is, we make many different
types of commercial and industrial things out of laminated fiberglass. It’s interesting work—a little different than
what I’ve done for most of my career, but interesting nonetheless. I will forego the discussion of how I stepped
into a firestorm when I started there three months ago. It is finally mellowing out and I feel that
I/we, the management team, are finally getting a handle on it all. I am foregoing that discussion to deal with
the topic at hand. That topic is toxic
environments.
It turns out that though the facility is set up with the best of air filtration and complies with the strict guidelines for dust, fumes and emissions set for such places, the environment seems to be physically toxic to me. To explain, I have slowly developed some asthmatic symptoms as I have aged, and I have struggled with asthmatic bronchitis since shortly after I started here. Once I was treated with antibiotics, codeine and inhalers. Just recently, on a return visit, I got another, more powerful inhaler. The place is not toxic to everyone. Fifty other people work there with no problem at all, but I have a problem and it seems to be related to the environment.
What does one do in such a situation? We tend to have pretty cut and dried answers to what to do about physical toxicity. Poison ivy? Avoid it. Hornets’ nest? Run away. Allergic to peanuts? Don’t eat a PB&J.
What can I do? All things being equal, I would do what sane people do, step away from the toxin or in this case the job that presents the toxin. I could look for another job, but that’s not so easy at my age of 62. I could keep taking the meds and hope they stave off the coughing and make things better, but I’m not real happy about taking medications that have big WARNINGS on them that they have been known to cause death in users. This medication also contains an ingredient that tends to make me ravenous. My waist line and general health does not need that.
I do have dear Christian friends praying for me. They are praying for me to be healed from this asthmatic problem so that I may stay at my job, and I have to say, I do believe in prayer. If the healing does not come, however, I have some decisions to make…some tough decisions to make.
So, yes, we act reasonably and avoid that which is toxic to us physically. No one in their right mind would continue in an environment that is detrimental to their health and physical wellbeing (tobacco and possibly alcohol abuse are another issue). There are, however, other toxic environments that we don’t shy away from so easily. Some we don’t recognize as toxic. Some we may have an idea that they are toxic, but for some reason we don’t back off or escape. I’m talking about those situations and environments that are toxic to us emotionally or even spiritually.
On the emotional level, just watch the news. It's too easy to realize that the classroom and the relational system built around school can be very toxic. It is toxic on many levels. My wife and I, being quite involved in our children's lives found, to our surprise that teachers can be a part of the toxicity of the educational system. Not all teachers, but a few definitely are. Then there are those who are targeted by bullies. For them, life can be hell and if the targeted child doesn’t have allies, at least in parents if no one else, this environment can be devastating and have lifelong effects…sometimes even leading to suicide. I have some friends whose child has been targeted by bullies for way too long. Their choice, though costly and difficult, was to sell their house and move to a new school district for the betterment of their son. I applaud them and pray for their son.
Other emotionally toxic environments that I remember and many other people have in their lives, as well, are toxic work environments. These are usually set by someone in a management position. Sometimes the immediate supervisor, but other times a whole environment is built by the neurosis or dysfunction of the upmost management or ownership. I’ve experienced two stellar examples in my career. These situations were harmful to me and everyone else around. I ended up getting away to tell about it. What is hard to understand is those who stay, knowing that it is toxic…complaining about it constantly…but not doing anything about it. They stay in the emotional toxic sludge and day by day their emotional being is eroded by the sickness being perpetuated upon them.
In the work environment, there are also other toxic people who can affect you. There are coworkers who love to build themselves up by tearing you down. These people are emotional bullies. Their tactics may be very subtle, but they are effective and can eat away at a person’s self esteem and well being until they feel like nothing. Again, some people are healthy enough to do something about it. They fight back or find a way to get away. Others don’t feel they have the power to fight back or for some reason don’t think they can leave. Laws have become much better in efforts to keep this out of the work place and even classroom environments, but it still exists.
There is one more toxicity that we don’t realize too often, and if we do, we don’t want to admit it or talk about it; that is spiritual toxicity…environments that are toxic to the spiritual well being of the individual. We are spiritual beings and we desire a connection with “The Spiritual”. We usually find ourselves in institutions of sorts that claim to help us with that need/desire. The problem is, many times, the institutions, or their higher organizations, or their individual local expressions are toxic. It’s easy for us to sit back and look at the “cults” in the news and know that they are toxic and should be avoided. “Those people are crazy and those inside have been duped!” It happens in other accepted and established spiritual environments, though. Churches where the leadership is very autocratic and set up environments that demand more than encourage. These systems use shame, inclusion versus exclusion, and other manipulations to control people, their beliefs, their finances, and their behavior. These systems have in/out, good/bad, with us/against us mentality. These systems see the individual as something, not someone, and they see it as something to be controlled. Some of these systems preach a freedom, but their practice is constraint and control.
Spiritual toxicity can be very subtle and one can get sucked in before they know it. It sometimes speaks to some other hungry dysfunction in an individual’s life. Being as such, it can be very hard to identify and break away from. The questions that need to be answered when asking oneself if this is a spiritually toxic environment are, “Does my spirit feel fuller or hungrier than before? Do I feel closer to The Spiritual or farther away, or just stuck in a spiritual quagmire? Do I feel that the ability to encounter The Spiritual is completely dependent on my efforts alone, or is The Spiritual actively working to move closer to me?” There are probably others, but this will get one started. Being born into such a toxic spiritual environment makes it very difficult to identify and even harder to walk away.
I am a person of faith. I hesitate to use the term Christian because of the connotations that term carries in the Western World today. I try to call myself a Biblical Follower of Jesus. So, when I talk about “The Spiritual” above, I am talking about experiencing God through Jesus Christ. Yes, many “Christian” churches and even denominations are spiritually toxic if looked at in light of the definition above. They are not the only ones, however. That is why I used the term, “The Spiritual” where I did.
Bottom line? I have a physical reaction to my physical work environment. It may be able to be treated. I may be healed according to the prayers of my friends. If not, I have a decision to make. That decision is, for my own health and well being; get away from the toxic environment. It’s a no brainer. Staying away from poison ivy…avoiding a hornet’s nest...not playing in traffic are all no brainers. We always try to avoid that which is physically “bad” for us.
But what about the emotionally and especially the spiritually toxic environments? I would say, do as I had to do with my bronchial condition. Take stock. It wasn’t hard for me to realize I was coughing…a lot. Why? Because my new work environment was toxic to me. Is your work, or school, or social surrounding causing you emotional problems? Is it possible that the environment is toxic to you? Is it building you up or tearing you down emotionally? If it’s tearing you down emotionally, it may be something to get away from.
If your pursuit of “The Spiritual” is tearing you down and frustrating you spiritually, you may be in a spiritually toxic situation and need to get away.
We find it easy to avoid hurtful and toxic things if they are physical. For our own good, we need to be able to look into the emotional and spiritual areas of our existence and be honest with ourselves whether they are beneficiary or toxic to our beings. If they are toxic we need to step away. If their toxicity has affected us to the point that we are suffering either emotionally or spiritually, we need to find treatment and/or healing to some extent.
Toxic is toxic. Whether it be physically, emotionally or spiritually; and it is to be avoided. To quote a line from Monty Python’s The Holy Grail, when confronted with toxicity in any part of your life, “Run away! Run away!”
It turns out that though the facility is set up with the best of air filtration and complies with the strict guidelines for dust, fumes and emissions set for such places, the environment seems to be physically toxic to me. To explain, I have slowly developed some asthmatic symptoms as I have aged, and I have struggled with asthmatic bronchitis since shortly after I started here. Once I was treated with antibiotics, codeine and inhalers. Just recently, on a return visit, I got another, more powerful inhaler. The place is not toxic to everyone. Fifty other people work there with no problem at all, but I have a problem and it seems to be related to the environment.
What does one do in such a situation? We tend to have pretty cut and dried answers to what to do about physical toxicity. Poison ivy? Avoid it. Hornets’ nest? Run away. Allergic to peanuts? Don’t eat a PB&J.
What can I do? All things being equal, I would do what sane people do, step away from the toxin or in this case the job that presents the toxin. I could look for another job, but that’s not so easy at my age of 62. I could keep taking the meds and hope they stave off the coughing and make things better, but I’m not real happy about taking medications that have big WARNINGS on them that they have been known to cause death in users. This medication also contains an ingredient that tends to make me ravenous. My waist line and general health does not need that.
I do have dear Christian friends praying for me. They are praying for me to be healed from this asthmatic problem so that I may stay at my job, and I have to say, I do believe in prayer. If the healing does not come, however, I have some decisions to make…some tough decisions to make.
So, yes, we act reasonably and avoid that which is toxic to us physically. No one in their right mind would continue in an environment that is detrimental to their health and physical wellbeing (tobacco and possibly alcohol abuse are another issue). There are, however, other toxic environments that we don’t shy away from so easily. Some we don’t recognize as toxic. Some we may have an idea that they are toxic, but for some reason we don’t back off or escape. I’m talking about those situations and environments that are toxic to us emotionally or even spiritually.
On the emotional level, just watch the news. It's too easy to realize that the classroom and the relational system built around school can be very toxic. It is toxic on many levels. My wife and I, being quite involved in our children's lives found, to our surprise that teachers can be a part of the toxicity of the educational system. Not all teachers, but a few definitely are. Then there are those who are targeted by bullies. For them, life can be hell and if the targeted child doesn’t have allies, at least in parents if no one else, this environment can be devastating and have lifelong effects…sometimes even leading to suicide. I have some friends whose child has been targeted by bullies for way too long. Their choice, though costly and difficult, was to sell their house and move to a new school district for the betterment of their son. I applaud them and pray for their son.
Other emotionally toxic environments that I remember and many other people have in their lives, as well, are toxic work environments. These are usually set by someone in a management position. Sometimes the immediate supervisor, but other times a whole environment is built by the neurosis or dysfunction of the upmost management or ownership. I’ve experienced two stellar examples in my career. These situations were harmful to me and everyone else around. I ended up getting away to tell about it. What is hard to understand is those who stay, knowing that it is toxic…complaining about it constantly…but not doing anything about it. They stay in the emotional toxic sludge and day by day their emotional being is eroded by the sickness being perpetuated upon them.
In the work environment, there are also other toxic people who can affect you. There are coworkers who love to build themselves up by tearing you down. These people are emotional bullies. Their tactics may be very subtle, but they are effective and can eat away at a person’s self esteem and well being until they feel like nothing. Again, some people are healthy enough to do something about it. They fight back or find a way to get away. Others don’t feel they have the power to fight back or for some reason don’t think they can leave. Laws have become much better in efforts to keep this out of the work place and even classroom environments, but it still exists.
There is one more toxicity that we don’t realize too often, and if we do, we don’t want to admit it or talk about it; that is spiritual toxicity…environments that are toxic to the spiritual well being of the individual. We are spiritual beings and we desire a connection with “The Spiritual”. We usually find ourselves in institutions of sorts that claim to help us with that need/desire. The problem is, many times, the institutions, or their higher organizations, or their individual local expressions are toxic. It’s easy for us to sit back and look at the “cults” in the news and know that they are toxic and should be avoided. “Those people are crazy and those inside have been duped!” It happens in other accepted and established spiritual environments, though. Churches where the leadership is very autocratic and set up environments that demand more than encourage. These systems use shame, inclusion versus exclusion, and other manipulations to control people, their beliefs, their finances, and their behavior. These systems have in/out, good/bad, with us/against us mentality. These systems see the individual as something, not someone, and they see it as something to be controlled. Some of these systems preach a freedom, but their practice is constraint and control.
Spiritual toxicity can be very subtle and one can get sucked in before they know it. It sometimes speaks to some other hungry dysfunction in an individual’s life. Being as such, it can be very hard to identify and break away from. The questions that need to be answered when asking oneself if this is a spiritually toxic environment are, “Does my spirit feel fuller or hungrier than before? Do I feel closer to The Spiritual or farther away, or just stuck in a spiritual quagmire? Do I feel that the ability to encounter The Spiritual is completely dependent on my efforts alone, or is The Spiritual actively working to move closer to me?” There are probably others, but this will get one started. Being born into such a toxic spiritual environment makes it very difficult to identify and even harder to walk away.
I am a person of faith. I hesitate to use the term Christian because of the connotations that term carries in the Western World today. I try to call myself a Biblical Follower of Jesus. So, when I talk about “The Spiritual” above, I am talking about experiencing God through Jesus Christ. Yes, many “Christian” churches and even denominations are spiritually toxic if looked at in light of the definition above. They are not the only ones, however. That is why I used the term, “The Spiritual” where I did.
Bottom line? I have a physical reaction to my physical work environment. It may be able to be treated. I may be healed according to the prayers of my friends. If not, I have a decision to make. That decision is, for my own health and well being; get away from the toxic environment. It’s a no brainer. Staying away from poison ivy…avoiding a hornet’s nest...not playing in traffic are all no brainers. We always try to avoid that which is physically “bad” for us.
But what about the emotionally and especially the spiritually toxic environments? I would say, do as I had to do with my bronchial condition. Take stock. It wasn’t hard for me to realize I was coughing…a lot. Why? Because my new work environment was toxic to me. Is your work, or school, or social surrounding causing you emotional problems? Is it possible that the environment is toxic to you? Is it building you up or tearing you down emotionally? If it’s tearing you down emotionally, it may be something to get away from.
If your pursuit of “The Spiritual” is tearing you down and frustrating you spiritually, you may be in a spiritually toxic situation and need to get away.
We find it easy to avoid hurtful and toxic things if they are physical. For our own good, we need to be able to look into the emotional and spiritual areas of our existence and be honest with ourselves whether they are beneficiary or toxic to our beings. If they are toxic we need to step away. If their toxicity has affected us to the point that we are suffering either emotionally or spiritually, we need to find treatment and/or healing to some extent.
Toxic is toxic. Whether it be physically, emotionally or spiritually; and it is to be avoided. To quote a line from Monty Python’s The Holy Grail, when confronted with toxicity in any part of your life, “Run away! Run away!”
